the lie of “I’m too busy” and what it takes to break free
If I had a dollar for every time I said “I’m too busy” instead of facing what’s really going on…
Well. You know the rest.
And listen, I am busy.
I’m a mother, a partner, a business owner. I hold space for other people’s unravelings, dreams, and thresholds. There are always lunches to pack, things to clean, a nervous system to regulate.
So yes: the logistics are real.
The overwhelm is real.
But “too busy” isn’t the truth.
It’s the best excuse I’ve ever had to delay my own becoming.
It’s the most socially acceptable way to stay in cycles that no longer serve me.
And if you’re reading this, I wonder if the same is true for you.
The Deeper Truth Behind “I’m Too Busy”
When women say they’re too busy to show up for the thing they said they wanted, a program, a ceremony, a piece of their own healing, it’s rarely about time.
More often, it’s about:
The fear of what will rise when we finally slow down
The internalized belief that we don’t matter unless we’re useful
The nervous system defaulting to chaos because that’s what feels familiar
The training that tells us everything else is more important, everyone else comes first
This isn’t personal failure.
It’s cultural design.
Urgency Is a System, Not a Personality Trait
Let’s name the systems clearly:
Capitalism wants you always producing
Patriarchy wants you pleasing and over-functioning
White supremacy wants you silent, compliant, and cut off from your inner knowing
These systems keep you in a hamster wheel of performance and perfection.
They reward you for surviving, but they do not want you whole.
So when you pause? When you try to reclaim your rhythm or commit to a practice that feeds you?
The old systems in your body panic.
They scream: You don’t have time for this.
Because your liberation threatens the whole machine.
The Cost of Staying Busy
When you live in default urgency, you:
Burn out trying to prove your worth
Abandon yourself while showing up for everyone else
Collect wisdom but never integrate it
Delay the sacred work that could change your life
Miss the doorway that was wide open because you didn’t feel “ready”
A New Way: Slowness as Rebellion, Devotion as Power
If you’ve ghosted your own devotion, you’re not alone.
If you’ve invested in programs and never logged in, welcome.
If you say “next week” and “when things settle down”, I see you.
But I also want to invite you to consider this:
What if your “too busy” isn’t a time problem… but a trauma pattern?
What if it’s not that you’re uncommitted, but that you’ve been taught to only commit to things that serve everyone but you?
What if your rhythm, your rituals, your sacred time…
were actually revolutionary?
Ready to Show Up Differently?
Inside my community space, THE KEY, we don’t shame your resistance.
We meet it.
We build nervous system safety, spiritual devotion, and collective liberation, together.
Not through pressure.
Not through perfection.
But through the radical act of staying in the room.
If you’re done circling the fire and ready to step inside, we begin at the threshold.
THE KEY a membership for women becoming the radical force we all need in these times