You Don’t Need More Advice, You Need to Trust Your Knowing
Unhooking from Expert Dependence and Reclaiming Your Sovereignty in the Healing Journey
The Lie of Expert Dependence
Let’s start here:
You don’t need more advice.
You need to trust your knowing.
In a world shaped by patriarchy, whiteness, and capitalism, we’ve been trained—conditioned—to outsource our authority.
We’re told to trust the doctors.
The therapists.
The gurus.
The coaches.
The step-by-step formulas.
The weekend certifications.
And while yes, training can be powerful and necessary—
The issue is: we’ve been taught to ignore our own truth in the process.
Why We Defer to “Experts”
Think about it.
From a young age, we’re taught to:
Follow instructions
Silence our instincts
Seek approval
Do it “the right way”
Defer to someone else who “knows better”
Even in healing spaces, we’re still being told:
“Here’s the method. Follow it. Fix yourself.”
But healing isn’t a formula.
It’s a remembering.
The Trap of Performing “Healing” Perfectly
For high-achieving women, eldest daughters, helpers, and sensitive system-holders, this gets extra sticky.
We’re used to striving.
We want to do it right.
We read the books, take the courses, check the boxes—
But still feel stuck.
Why?
Because no amount of self-help can replace self-trust.
You can’t think your way to liberation.
You have to feel your way.
Live it.
Apply it.
Embody it.
And most importantly?
Choose yourself over and over again.
Sovereignty Is Not Isolation—It’s Self-Authority
Let’s clarify:
Sovereignty doesn’t mean “you do it all alone.”
It means you are your own expert.
It doesn’t mean rejecting wisdom from others.
It means filtering it through your own body, your own truth, your own experience.
Sovereignty is:
A one-second body check-in
A pause to ask, “Does this feel right?”
Honoring discomfort as data
Knowing when to say yes and when to say no
Trusting the signs of shutdown, confusion, or misalignment—and responding accordingly
This is the work.
This is the revolution.
Why This Matters in a Commodified Healing World
We’re living in a time where healing has been branded.
Where “expertise” is a certification you can earn in a weekend.
Where lived experience and ancestral wisdom are devalued unless they’re commodified.
And that leaves many of us asking:
“Am I broken because this doesn’t work for me?”
“Why do I still feel off, even after doing all the things?”
“What’s wrong with me?”
Nothing is wrong with you.
What’s wrong is the system that trained you to stop listening to your own wisdom.
How to Reclaim Your Knowing
You start small.
With the micro-moments.
Try asking:
What’s true for me right now?
Do I feel open or shut down?
Where am I outsourcing my truth?
What do I actually need?
The answers may be soft.
They may come slowly.
But they will come.
And when you start to trust them?
Everything changes.
Final Words
You don’t need to be fixed.
You need to be trusted.
You don’t need more credentials.
You need to reclaim your inner voice.
You don’t need to follow someone else’s formula.
You need to remember the one inside of you.
This is the heart of healing.
This is what sovereignty looks like.
And this is your invitation to come home to yourself.