We’ve been conditioned to think healing is something we earn.

Do the work. Get better. Then you can be in community.

Only once you’ve figured out your trauma, fixed your nervous system, and gotten your life together—then you get to belong.

It’s the perfectionism of healing culture.
And it’s a lie.

Why Co-Regulation Is the Missing Link

Trauma is relational. It fractures safety in connection. It disconnects us from our sense of belonging, our voice, our truth.

So it makes sense that the antidote to trauma isn’t more isolation… it’s attunement.

When I think about why I’m so devoted to collective spaces, why I center community, why I refuse to do this work in isolation, it all roots back to one of the most painful, clarifying seasons of my life.

January 2020, I had just returned from Hawaii, where I completed a two-year sacred training circle that I’d guided. It should’ve felt victorious. But instead, I came home empty and completely undone. What should have been an honoring left me in a full spiritual unraveling. A dark night of the soul.

You’re Not Broken for Fearing Group Work

If the thought of being vulnerable in a group makes your skin crawl, your heart race, or your mind shut down—you are not broken.

This is not a personal failing.
It’s a protective pattern.
And it makes sense.

Because here's the truth:
Group spaces activate old wounds.
Visibility, attention, shared space—it all taps into deep survival programming.

In a world shaped by patriarchy, whiteness, and capitalism, we’ve been trained—conditioned—to outsource our authority.
We’re told to trust the doctors.
The therapists.
The gurus.
The coaches.
The step-by-step formulas.
The weekend certifications.

And while yes, training can be powerful and necessary—
The issue is: we’ve been taught to ignore our own truth in the process.

Let’s talk about the most accepted excuse we all carry:

“I’m too busy.”

It’s the best out. The ultimate reason to not do the thing.
To not prioritize what matters.
To not say the truer thing underneath.

And here’s the wild part: It’s not even a lie.

The Deeper Truth Behind “I’m Too Busy”

When women say they’re too busy to show up for the thing they said they wanted, a program, a ceremony, a piece of their own healing, it’s rarely about time.

More often, it’s about:

• The fear of what will rise when we finally slow down

• The internalized belief that we don’t matter unless we’re useful

• The nervous system defaulting to chaos because that’s what feels familiar

• The training that tells us everything else is more important, everyone else comes first

This isn’t personal failure.
It’s cultural design.

Discover how gentle, soul-rooted nervous system practices can shift your state, deepen self-love, and build real resilience, without bypassing your truth.

Movement as Medicine in a World on Fire

Let’s name it:

The world right now is a lot.

In the U.S., and globally, we are navigating political violence, racial injustice, economic collapse, environmental crisis, genocidal warfare, grief on a collective scale, and deep personal unravelings.

It’s not normal.
And your body knows it.

So if you're feeling exhausted, hyper-sensitive, like you're about to snap or numb out completely:
You’re not broken.
You’re dysregulated in a dysregulated world.

If you could do just one thing for yourself today,
One thing that didn’t take hours…
One thing that wouldn’t overwhelm your already-full plate…
One thing that would actually shift something real in your life

Let it be this.

Heal alone.
Parent alone.
Build alone.
Grow alone.
Be the strong one. Be the capable one. Be the “I’ve got it” one.

But there’s a different way.
A more ancient, more sacred, more sustainable way.

It’s called community healing.
And group containers, especially ones built on safety, truth, and shared power, can create exponential growth in a way individual work simply can’t.

Here’s the story: Sunday night, we get home from my sister’s wedding. On Monday, we go back to school and work and are preparing to leave for another family trip Friday at 4am. On Wednesday, we get a text from our realtors (who we really like BUT we weren’t really looking) saying that this house was on the market and it was offer review day, but the sellers didn’t like the offer. If we want to see it, they can show us Wednesday after work.

Fear—it's a word that often evokes discomfort, hesitation, and even dread. But what if I told you that fear isn't something to be avoided or ignored? What if, instead of seeing fear as our adversary, we embraced it as a wise companion on our journey?

As we stepped into the equinox portal, I've made a powerful declaration: I'm doing things differently. And I want to invite you to join me on this transformative journey.

Have you ever had someone ask you what you're doing for your spiritual life, and your response is simply "me"? It may sound cheeky, but within those words lies a profound truth that I've come to understand deeply on my own spiritual journey.

Before I understood winter's magical embrace, I used to associate it with loneliness and low energy. Little did I know that winter holds a profound opportunity for introspection and transformation.

In the intersection of spiritual coaching for moms and mental health therapy for young women, a beautiful synergy emerges. It's a journey of mindful parenting, centered motherhood, collective liberation, and conscious living. Together, we create a tapestry of healing and growth—one that not only transforms the lives of these women but contributes to the larger narrative of a more compassionate and just world. As we embrace the interconnectedness of our journeys, we pave the way for a future where spirituality, motherhood, and mental wellness harmoniously coexist.

Our spiritual journey should never exist in isolation; it should seamlessly intertwine with our human experience. If your spiritual practices aren’t enhancing your life, it’s time for a change. Let’s align our practices with our authentic selves, embracing the harmony that comes from this unity.